Friday 27 April 2012

22 Weeks.....

We are at the 22 week mark with our pregnancy, I can’t believe that time is flying by as fast as it is. We thought the weeks would drag along at a snail’s pace, but it is the total opposite for us, as the days are going by so fast we can’t seem to figure out where these last few months have gone….

Although the time is going by fast we are getting stuff done in preparation for our little one’s arrival. Daniel has finished painting the nursery (re-painting), and the crib we ordered was delivered last night. It will be exciting to finally start setting up the nursery and this is part of the process we have been looking forward to for some time and it feels everything is coming together finally.

Our friends have been gracious enough to throw us a baby shower next weekend, we are excited for the opportunity to see all of our friends and families and actually have a day set aside to celebrate the journey we have been on so far.  This has touched not Daniel and I but everyone close to us have had a part to play in the emotional roller-coaster of this surrogacy so far and getting together and celebrating is exactly what we all need right now!

Wednesday 18 April 2012

What a difference a day makes.......


It’s been a few weeks since my last update and because things have been going along quite smoothly we really haven’t had any updates to share.  We have been getting the baby room in order and with over 70 hours worth of painting we are almost done! Or so we thought…

This week was our planned 20-week ultra sound, and these days are always mixed with excitement and anticipation. We know we are at the mercy of a hospital many thousands of miles away and the waiting is usually unbearable for us on these days.

We waited on Monday and to our disappointment they were not able to do the ultra sound since the doctor was called into an emergency and didn’t get out of the operating room until quite late. This was all right since we understand that there are emergencies that come up and they promised they would have our ultra sound completed first thing the next morning. The next morning came and went, and towards the end of the day we finally received word from the hospital. The email stated that all is well, and the baby was healthy along with the surrogate and perfectly normal for the 20-week mark. This was great news but the one final piece of information they shared with us is that they have confirmed through the ultra sound that we are now having a healthy baby BOY! The last ultra sounds was so early they had problems making out the baby parts and thought is looked like a girl…

I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry. Yes we are both happy and thrilled that we are finally pregnant and so grateful everyday that this is happening to us, but the last ultrasound we were told we were having a girl and this is what we started planning for and it has thrown us for a bit of a loop.

Our lovely girls room that was so meticulously painted and planned out now has to be changed and updated for a little prince not the little princess we had originally thought. I know we will laugh at this one-day and although we have heard story after story about ultra sounds being wrong and don’t make too many plans until later in the pregnancy we couldn’t help ourselves.

The only thing we have during this pregnancy is out monthly email updates and our thoughts, feeling, and dreams, we have started imagining memories of our child and what they will be like and this is the hard thing to try and forget about or alter. We know in a couple days we will get excited again and start planning and dreaming of our little boy and the shock in our system will become a distance memory of a little bump in the road.


Mistakes happen, nothing is guaranteed, and until we have that little bundle in our arms we wont feel safe and relieved. This process, although is going relatively smoothly, has been nothing but stressful on the both of us. I don’t think anyone would really understand unless they have gone through it and I know it will make our family stronger and more appreciative everyday for the process we went through to have children.

We are over 20 weeks pregnant! That is the idea we are focusing on, half way mark and we are now on the last half of the pregnancy. We know it is not going to get any easier, more than likely it will get even more stressful with each week we are closer to the birth, but nothing comes easy in life and if you really want something the way we want this baby we will be able to handle anything that is thrown our way!!!!!!